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I’m Taking An Extended Break

So I’m back from holidays and I had a really lovely time. Nice to get a bit of R&R before the holiday season is upon us. I’m already exhausted and it’s only really week 1 so far.

The reason I’m writing is that I’ve decided to take a longer break from this blog. I’m working on a new website because I want to launch a new business in the near future (exciting!) and whilst I’d love to continue on this blog, I just can’t prioritise it at the moment.

So I hope you all have a safe and happy holiday time and hopefully I will see you all in the brand new year!

Take care and stay safe!

I’m On Holidays

Hi Everyone,

Just wanted to quickly update you all that I am going on holidays so won’t be around for a few weeks. It’s been particularly busy so I haven’t done some of my normal posts like the Intentional Spending ones. Hopefully once I’m back I’ll be well-rested and able to keep up.

Enjoy yourselves and be safe!

Much Love,

Valentina

Dance Workout

I started dance classes a couple of months back and I love it. I’ve always loved dancing, especially as a form of exercise so when I came across a dance studio that is a 7 minute drive from my house and not unreasonably expensive. I jumped on it!

I started Twerking classes and I have to say whilst I have booty, I’m not that great at it but it’s a great confidence booster regardless. I just finished up the 6 week course and as I’m going away for a couple of weeks I thought I’d leave signing up again until the new year.

But that hasn’t stopped me from you-tubing a heap of dance videos and I’ve found myself a bunch that I’ve put into a “workout’ mix for myself.

Click HERE for the playlist

Here are the individual videos

Warm Up

Morning Yoga for Flexibility – Tara Stiles

‘Buttons’ Pussycat Dolls – The Fitness Marshall

‘I’m A Slave For You’ Britney Spears – The Fitness Marshall

Main Component

‘Work’ Rihanna – The Fitness Marshall

‘Lose Control’ Missy Elliot – The Fitness Marshall

‘Milkshake’ Kelis – The Fitness Marshall

‘Yeah’ Usher – The Fitness Marshall

Warm Down

‘London Bridge’ Fergie – The Fitness Marshall

‘Numb’ Nick Jonas – The Fitness Marshall

10 Minute Workout Arms – Tonic

Cool Down Routine – Tara Stiles

The whole thing goes for about 50 minutes and I usually burn around 400 calories doing it. I think it’s so important to find workouts that you enjoy doing and this is definitely one that I enjoy. I hope you do too!

 

Project 333 – One Month Update

I started Project 333 about a month ago and I thought I’d give you all a quick update.

To be honest, it’s been very easy. There hasn’t been a day where I’ve struggled to find something to wear and I’ve only worn something that wasn’t in my wardrobe once – a pair of heels for an engagement party. This was one of the two occasions where I’ve allowed myself to stray slightly from my 333 wardrobe. I’ve had to be really on top of washing and drying my clothes which is the only real annoyance but it does mean my laundry piles don’t build up as much.

Whilst my wardrobe is simple, it’s also boring. My outfits consist of different combinations of shoes, jeans, top and jumper. I want to get a bit more creative with my wardrobe so whilst I’m not actively shopping at the moment for new pieces, it is giving me a lot to think about and what I want to do is add items that I can layer. Things like oversized or asymmetrical shirts, dresses where I can add a shirt or top underneath, items that can easily be dressed up or down. I’m also debating adding a few key pieces to help accessorise.

It’s been an interesting experiment. I’m not yet bored of my wardrobe but I think by the end of the year I will be. I still have 2 spots to fill and whilst I haven’t found anything yet I will keep an eye out just in case.

Time

When we think about time we rarely think in terms of it going at just the right pace. When we’re enjoying something time goes far too quick, when we’re not, like at work, it drags on and every minute feels like an hour. Looking back it seems like it was only yesterday that my 1 year old nephew was born, but now that it’s Monday it feels like the weekend is forever away.

Time is precious and I want my days to reflect that. I spend so much of it at work and on my phone mindlessly scrolling – although a lot less than I used to. I watch a lot of tv when I could be reading the many books I own but haven’t started, doing additional study in a course that I recently enrolled in and really love, practicing yoga and poses I’m having difficulty with or engaging in something that’s actually important to me. I brush those things off because I’m tired or can’t be bothered because they’re more effort than lying around.

I act as if I have plenty of time. Maybe I do. But maybe I don’t. What I can do is use my time more wisely, be more aware of how I’m spending my time and only spending it with people who are important to me.

November Goals – A New Way Of Thinking

I’m studying a life coaching course at the moment and it’s really interesting (Beautiful You Coaching Academy). We’re learning about goal setting and it’s very different to the way I’ve previously been taught. Most people follow the S.M.A.R.T way of setting goals but with this course the aim is to create a feelings based goal that’s inspiring and have the actions cover the S.M.A.R.T principle of goal setting. The purpose of creating goals this way is that if the goal title is positive and powerful you are more likely to want to reach it. And I have to agree. “Feel free and comfortable by moving my body” sounds so much nicer than “lose 10 kilos.”

So with that in mind, this is my November goal –

Feel that my mind, body and spirit are being honoured

This is how I’m going to achieve that

Mind

  • To read more
  • To practice Spanish 4 times a week
  • Meditate daily
  • To give energy to those who deserve it

Body

  • To move my body 4 times a week
  • To honour my hunger
  • To make healthy versions of junk food that I like

Spirit

  • To say no more
  • To clean one room every weeknight
  • To brainstorm business names/logos/designs
  • To rest

 

This way of setting goals seems very zen to me and I kinda love that. It feels more real and aligned to me as a person. Whilst the goal itself is vague to others, I know I want these actions to help me achieve a feeling of calm, productiveness and to be respectful of myself. Ultimately these actions are what will help me understand whether I’ve achieved my goal at the end of the month.

 

What are your goals for this month?

The Truth About My Finances

I need to get real about my finances. For the last 6 months I’ve been pretending that things are going to plan but they’re not. I’m living pay check to pay check again which I hate. This isn’t as dire as it sounds. I do have savings and am paying off everything I need to but I can’t work out why I feel I need so many things. I’ve been actively working at minimising yet I go out and buy new things I don’t need. I buy clothes when I’m doing Project 333 and have donated half my wardrobe. I get caught up in things I do need – yesterday I bought a new planner for next year. It cost me $89. Did I need to spend that much? No because a $10 planner would be sufficient.

Why do I do this to myself?

Mindset.

My mindset is not right for what I want to be achieving. For one, I’m influenced by social media. I’m 100% aware that social media is not real life. But I follow a lot of coaches and health/well-being people on Instagram and they’re just so damn productive with their planners, mugs, notebooks and pens and I think “damn, if I have those things I’ll be productive too!” I know it’s a lie. And I know that it won’t help but for some reason I don’t stop myself.

Another reason is that I don’t have a lot of spending money once I’ve taken care of bills, savings and other essentials. Once I go over I think “well fuck it, I may as well blow it.” A solution could be more breathing room. I’m going to spend a bit of time working out what I’m spending again following my money method that I outlined here.

We’ve gone through some big changes this year and financially we’ve spent a lot. We’re still in the process of renovating, I had expensive surgery and booked holidays that we’ve paid for up-front. Whilst we haven’t been frivolous with our money, we haven’t exactly been careful either.

I think there’s a fine line when it comes to spending and saving. I want to be careful with my spending but still feel free to make choices without having that anxiety-inducing moment.

Back to the planner I bought yesterday. Whilst it’s certainly a lot of money, I worked out it ends up being approximately $1.70 per week. But I anguished over this choice for weeks and I don’t want that. I want to feel confident in the choices I’m making. I want to intrinsically know that it’s ok to spend money on things that are useful and important, especially when I can afford to and it’s not impacting anything else. But that is where the problem lies. It is impacting other things so until I get that sorted I’ll feel either anxious or ambivalent about every purchase I make.

So, my aim for the rest of this year is to get my finances sorted so I can start 2018 fresh.