I know we all have body issues. I know we all go through days hating ourselves. I know for some people it feels like that feeling will never go away. I know that and I understand it because I’ve been there.
But I have to say – please, please, please don’t include me in your body esteem issues.
I know your intention is to be complimentary but knowing that you compare yourself to me and everyone else around you doesn’t make me feel good. It makes me feel like shit. It makes me feel helpless to help you deal with your issues. It makes me want to hide my body around you to protect your feelings and that’s not fair on me. I know I sound selfish and uncaring but to be honest, I don’t really care. It makes me anxious and it makes me question my own body when I’ve worked so damn hard to accept myself and want to improve myself for me. Unsurprisingly my own acceptance and state of mind is more important to me then letting you dump on me in a way that ends up affecting me.
I just want to be clear – I don’t mind if you want to talk about your issues. I really don’t. In fact, I love that you trust me enough to discuss these awful feelings. All I ask is that you don’t tell me how I lucky I am to be skinny or compare the size of our butts, tummy, shoulders to each other or that I wouldn’t understand. Because I do understand. All I ask is that you talk in your own terms, about yourself because really, that’s the key to moving forward.